Several years ago, I was giving a player a ride home. This had become a normal occurrence and had gotten to know his home situation and mother. He was a great kid with a few siblings; living in a small home with a mother that was doing everything possible to support them. We had made it a common practice to stop at the fast-food place of his choice on the drive home. This particular night, I asked if he wanted Zaxby’s, he always like the “Wings & Things” order… He said, “No, coach, today my mom got paid and when she gets paid, she always makes my favorite meal.” I said, “That is awesome man, what is she going to fix?” Then he replied, “She always makes lasagna, and coach … we get bread and everything….” 

In that moment, his innocent words pierced my heart and soul. I did not respond and was thinking about the fact that bread in my house was a normal occurrence…. a simple side that we just expected to be available. The perspective was intense on being blessed, real priorities, and true purpose… This kid was not only a good player, but one of the best kids I had ever coached. He had a great attitude, was coachable, worked hard, and loved his teammates. Everyone loved him and he never let his circumstances dictate his approach on life. This kid was always humble and hungry to better himself. 

Without knowing it… that young man reminded me of some very valuable lessons. That we all have circumstances to overcome and there are no excuses if we want to be successful. That the appreciation for seemingly small things is proof of being reliable in the future. That when we can fill a need for someone, we give them hope for a better tomorrow. That I should celebrate what I have vs complain about what I am missing. That we can take things for granted until those things are gone. That the real mission we are on, is to help others discover a better version of themselves.

When I see bread, I often remember that day, and have a new perspective on my everything. 

“There is nothing more powerful than a humble person, with a warrior spirit, that is driven by a larger purpose.”